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Terms of Endearment

Endearments

“Hello, darling.”

“Stop right there, sweetheart.”

“Lookin’ good, babe!”

“Sugar-pie, honey bunch, you know that I love you.”

“Aw, snookums.”

Endearments and pet names have always been part of our vocabularies. They appear in movies, on television, we see them in books and magazines and hear them in our daily conversations. Some are cute. Some are private, kept for tender moments between lovers. Some are over-the-top saccharine-sweet and make us cringe.

As a romance writer, I sprinkle sweetheart or babe in my dialogue. It’s a good way of adding characterization. A man might use the casual “babe” because a woman’s name escapes him and he doesn’t want to look stupid. Our male character might never utter a sweetheart or love until he meets the one. Perhaps the first time the heroine hears an endearment she realizes our hero is serious about their relationship. The ceasing of endearments could be the signal that the relationship is important, or it might mean it’s over and the person doesn’t care enough to use a pet name.

I’m not averse to the odd sweet nothing. A sweetheart or love works for me, maybe babe in some situations, but if anyone calls me snookums they should watch out!

When I’m reading, I don’t mind endearments as long as they’re not overdone. If they’re used on every page I want to yank them out of the book. Violent, much? But it’s true. They can bug a reader if they’re used too often.

What do you think about endearments? Do they irritate you or make you smile? Are there any that make you cringe?

Thirteen Common Endearments

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Since it was Valentine’s Day this week I thought a list of endearments would be the perfect topic for my TT.

Thirteen Endearments

1. Love/lover

2. Sweetheart

3. Darling

4. Dear

5. Honey

6. Babe/Baby

7. Sugar

8. Sweetpea

9. Sweetie/Sweet

10. Doll/dollface

11. Cutie

12. Sunshine

13. Cupcake

When we lived in England, it was very common for the customers in the pub where we worked to call the barmaids luv or darlin’ or sweetheart. I was a bit taken aback at first, but soon became used to 18 year old men calling me luv.

One of our regulars used to call all of the girls “me old darling.” He’d say, “Another drink, me old darling.” I hated this and used to grit my teeth each time. When my husband wants to wind me up, he’ll call me that. Gets me going every time!

Do you use endearments in your relationships? Which endearments do you absolutely despise?